PRE-PUBESCENT CHILDREND DON'T KNOW THEIR SEXUALITY! Quit letting them make these decisions!!!
I was recently reading an interview of a pediatrician telling about a pre-pubescent boy who approached his parents and told them he was "trans" and really wanted to be a girl..
His parents loved him dearly and took him to the Doctor and the doctor recommended a psychiatrist. After a few months of counseling, the root cause came out.. "You love girls more than boys." You see, in the year prior to his "coming out", he had a baby sister born who was special needs. Mommy and Daddy were focusing their attention on her, naturally, and he didn't understand that she NEEDED the extra attention. All he knew was that they "didn't love him as much" as they did her.
This boy wasn't trans. But if his parents had immediately bought dresses and dolls instead of getting him the counseling he needed, his life would have been even more messed if he ever decided in high school that he was straight. Parents have to be parents. They loved him, but they knew he was too young to be making decisions about his sexuality. No parent wants to hurt their young child's feelings, but sometimes you have to do just that.
NINE-YEAR-OLD COMMITS SUICIDE AFTER COMING OUT AS GAY
This was on Yahoo News today. Wow! Poor kid. Poor kid's family.. What nine year old is even thinking about girls, much less guys? We, as a society, have allowed children to "grow up" well beyond their abilities to mentally process life. A 9-year-old should be worrying about riding his bicycle and playing with his friends on the merry-go-round at recess. He shouldn't even know what "gay" is. I am straight and when I was 9, girls still had cooties. I can't help but wonder if he had a gay family member or friend to whom he looked up and just wanted to be like him. Maybe he saw him "come out" and friends and family still loved him. Either way, parents should guide their children. That means remind them that many kids won't just accept them as gay. Many kids can be cruel. Perhaps teach the child to only come out to his one or two best friends and see how that goes.. Or even how to bring up gay people and see how they react first.
Every parent should discuss this with their child. Explain that they will meet people who are gay in their life and that person is probably a good person and deserves respect. And if they have any major announcements like their sexual orientation, they should discuss it first with their parents and that Mom/Dad will love them regardless.
His parents loved him dearly and took him to the Doctor and the doctor recommended a psychiatrist. After a few months of counseling, the root cause came out.. "You love girls more than boys." You see, in the year prior to his "coming out", he had a baby sister born who was special needs. Mommy and Daddy were focusing their attention on her, naturally, and he didn't understand that she NEEDED the extra attention. All he knew was that they "didn't love him as much" as they did her.
This boy wasn't trans. But if his parents had immediately bought dresses and dolls instead of getting him the counseling he needed, his life would have been even more messed if he ever decided in high school that he was straight. Parents have to be parents. They loved him, but they knew he was too young to be making decisions about his sexuality. No parent wants to hurt their young child's feelings, but sometimes you have to do just that.
NINE-YEAR-OLD COMMITS SUICIDE AFTER COMING OUT AS GAY
This was on Yahoo News today. Wow! Poor kid. Poor kid's family.. What nine year old is even thinking about girls, much less guys? We, as a society, have allowed children to "grow up" well beyond their abilities to mentally process life. A 9-year-old should be worrying about riding his bicycle and playing with his friends on the merry-go-round at recess. He shouldn't even know what "gay" is. I am straight and when I was 9, girls still had cooties. I can't help but wonder if he had a gay family member or friend to whom he looked up and just wanted to be like him. Maybe he saw him "come out" and friends and family still loved him. Either way, parents should guide their children. That means remind them that many kids won't just accept them as gay. Many kids can be cruel. Perhaps teach the child to only come out to his one or two best friends and see how that goes.. Or even how to bring up gay people and see how they react first.
Every parent should discuss this with their child. Explain that they will meet people who are gay in their life and that person is probably a good person and deserves respect. And if they have any major announcements like their sexual orientation, they should discuss it first with their parents and that Mom/Dad will love them regardless.
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